One of the most common questions I get from couples during the planning process is:


“Should we do a first look?”


And the truth is—there’s no one-size-fits-all answer.


For some couples, the idea of seeing each other for the first time at the end of the aisle is something they’ve always dreamed of. For others, they’re looking for a way to make their day feel a little more relaxed and intentional.


Having photographed both, I can tell you this—each option is beautiful in its own way.


But there are a few things most couples don’t realize when it comes to a first look.






What Is a First Look?


A first look is a private moment before the ceremony where you and your partner see each other for the first time.


It’s typically just the two of you (plus your photographer quietly capturing it), creating space to actually take in the moment before everything begins.



How a First Look Changes Your Timeline


From a purely logistical standpoint, a first look can completely transform how your day flows.


When you choose to do one, you’re able to:


  • complete most of your portraits before the ceremony
  • take your time instead of feeling rushed
  • enjoy more of your cocktail hour and reception


Without a first look, the majority of photos happen after the ceremony—which can feel like a bit of a time crunch, especially if lighting is limited.



More Time = More Creative Photos


This is one of the biggest advantages from a photographer’s perspective.


With a first look, we’re not racing against the clock. That means:


  • more variety in your photos
  • more intentional movement and posing
  • the ability to use different locations and lighting


It allows your gallery to feel more relaxed and complete instead of rushed.


The Part Most Couples Don't Think About


Beyond the timeline and photos—this is the part that matters most.


A first look gives you a moment together.


Because once the ceremony begins, your day moves quickly. You’re surrounded by guests, pulled in different directions, and before you know it, the night is flying by.


Without a first look, many couples don’t get a quiet moment alone until the very end of the night.


With a first look, you get to pause.

To breathe.

To actually be together before everything unfolds.


Does It Take Away From the Aisle Moment?


This is probably the biggest concern—and it’s completely valid.


But in my experience?


It doesn’t take away from that moment at all.


Walking down the aisle is still emotional.

Still powerful.

Still one of the most meaningful parts of the day.


If anything, a first look often takes the pressure off—allowing couples to be more present and less overwhelmed when that moment comes.


When a First Look Might Not Be the Right Fit


While there are so many benefits, it’s not the right choice for everyone—and that’s okay.


You may want to skip it if:


  • you’ve always envisioned that traditional aisle moment
  • your timeline allows plenty of time after the ceremony
  • you simply feel strongly about waiting


At the end of the day, this decision should reflect what feels right to you.


Your Day, Your Choice


There’s no right or wrong choice when it comes to a first look—only what fits your vision.


But if you’re looking for a way to create a smoother timeline, a more relaxed experience, and a quiet moment together before everything begins… it’s absolutely worth considering.


Because your wedding day goes by faster than you think.


And any chance to slow it down—even for just a moment—is something you’ll never regret.